My Grieving Rights
I have the right to my own unique feelings about the death of my special person.
No one else will grieve in exactly the same way that I do. I will not allow other people to tell me what I should or should not be feeling. I may feel anger, relief, sorrow or fear. I may be numb and feel nothing at all. All fo my feelings are okay and I will not permit anyone to say differently.
I have the right to talk about my grief when I feel like talking.
Talking about my grief will help me heal.
I need to talk as much as I want and as often as I want about my grief.
I will seek out people who will listen while I talk.
I will remain silent when I don't want to talk and and not allow myself to feel pressured into talking when I need to be quiet.
I have the right to feel all of my emotions
I have the right to "griefbursts"
I might experience unexpected sadness or powerful grief waves that seem to come out of nowhere. Although these griefbursts are normal, the feelings attached can frighten me.
I will seek out someone who understands and will listen while I talk about my experience.
I have the right to try to find the meaning in the death of my special person.
I will ask whatever "why" questions I need to ask and know that i may find answers or I may not. I do not have to accept other people's cliched responses such as , "It was God's will." or "Count your blessing for the time you did have."
I have the right to feel my grief and
over time, to move through my grief.
I will remember that grief is a process not an event.
I will avoid people who are impatient with my grief process. My life will be forever changed by the loss of my special person, but I will go and live my life fully and I will celebrate my aliveness.
My special person will always be a part of me and I will always miss this special person.
I have the right to acknowledge my physical and emotional limits.
I will respect what my body and mind tell me. I will rest. I will eat. Loss and sadness can leave me exhausted and I will not allow other people to push me into doing things that I do not feel ready to do.