Some people are not comfortable with another person's pain and want to try to take it all away. This is not possible. Your friend cannot "lighten up" because you have a need for them to be pain free.
Not everyone is comfortable "being there" when a friend or loved on experiences grief.
Grief work takes a long time.
Sometimes your friend will seem like their "old self" and the stuffed in feelings will come out.
It is important to ask yourself, "Am I willing to help my friend through their grief? Am I able to spend time with my friend, listen to my friend and to not judge my friend's feelings?"
If you don't know if you should talk about the death,
ask your friend. Say
"Would you like to talk about (the special person)?
If you want to talk I am here to listen."
Your friend needs:
Someone they can talk to about their loss.
Someone who will not judge their feeling.
Someone who will help them feel good about themselves.
Someone who respects that each person grieves differently.
Someone who makes them feel valued or loved.
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