Anger
                                                                                                                                 

Anger is not right or wrong, good or bad; it is simply a NATURAL secondary feeling.

Fear, loss, hurt or sadness can make us feel helpless and lead to anger.

Anger helps overcome feelings of helplessness.

You may find you are angry at family or friends, at God, at yourself, or even at the person who died.

How we express feelings of anger is important.

Common feelings
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“I was mad at my Dad. We were supposed to snow board and then he died. I felt like he abandoned me.”

“When my sister died I was pissed off.  My head screamed, ‘You were stupid to kill yourself. You should have asked for help.”

“I hated God when my Mother died. I still get mad. God let my mother suffer with cancer, and then she died and was taken from me.”

“I feel rage. A drunk driver killed my best friend. I want him to pay for what he did.”

“Everything has changed. I get angry watching people act like nothing has changed.”


Some things you can do
                          

 Remember that your anger is not right or wrong.
It is what you do with your anger that counts.

Learn to recognize when you are feeling mad.   Is there something that triggers your anger?  Where do you feel it in your body?

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Make a journal list of everything that makes you feel angry. 

Are you blaming someone for your special person’s death?  Do your friends make dumb comments?

Think about how you respond when you feel anger.   If you strike out verbally or physically at other people, think about what you can do to control your  temper…and write this downMake a journal list of everything that makes you feel angry.  Are you blaming someone for your special person’s death?  Do your friends make dumb comments?
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Talk to people who care about you and tell them about your angry feelings.
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Write a letter to the person you are feeling angry with and express all of your feelings.
  
Instead of mailing the letter, burn it, or tear it up and throw away.

Other things you can do.
Go for a walk, ride a bike or shoot some hoops to release your anger energy.

                                   

    It’s important to contact a professional if you, or someone you know, is having a very hard time dealing with grief.

    Do you have a question about your anger? Do you want to talk to someone about it?

    You can contact the Youth Counsellor at Nanaimo Community Hospice by filling in the form below or by phoning 250-591-8811.
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